Reducing Arguments: Tips For Staying Connected Through Conflict

Hey Codebreakers!  Did you win the argument but lose a little more of the person? 

This week's newsletter will share some practical tips for reducing arguments and fostering harmonious interactions. We all know that disagreements are a part of life, but disagreements don't have to turn into arguments where it's a fight where one person has to "win" and the other has to "lose". 

Understanding Perspectives

Firstly, understanding your perspective is key.  Ask yourself before you say one word, "What kind of lense am I seeing this situation through? The lenses we look through  "color" everything that we see.  Is it disrespect, lack of love, feeling attacked, etc? 

Second, you have to see the other person's perspective and be able to accurately say it out loud.  Many times we want to be heard, but don't offer than same condition to the other person in the conversation. Rather than saying "you're being rediculous" or that "there's no way you could be honestly think that...", we should say "Help me understand how you're seeing this situation?" and "I heard you say that you're frustrated, I respect your right to feel that way." 

A great a way turn a potentially HOT argument into a COOL and connected disagreement is to make hearing and understanding them your priority.  Next, knowing Connection Codes that drive their fears can give you vital information to bring calm and connection back between you.

Effective Communication

We here at TBA believe that communication is more about the message recieved rather than the words we send. The art and science of good communication is involves showing you care enough to accurately recieve their meaning in the communication exchange. It's not about winning an argument, it's about having enough care and respect to understanding each other and look through the lense of the other person. 

How do you communicate effectively during disagreements? We'd love to hear your strategies.

Thank you for joining us this week. We hope these tips help you navigate disagreements while maintaining connection. Until next time, make sure you have on the right and healthiest frames to see the situation through.

The Codebreaker newsletter is our once-monthly guide to our amazing community, where we share the steps to truly connect and win. If you want immediate results, purchase the The Connection Codes training course here: https://www.bryanrush.net/offers/zobqgCF7 and either Bryan or Dan will contact you to set up a live training that takes less than an hour. 

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